Okay, so here I sit, eating my dinner and wondering why some people are so blind.
How are they blind? Well, perhaps blind is an incorrect word. I think that the word that I'm looking for is narrow. Or self-serving. So many people have no understanding of the differences of the definitions for 'fetish' and 'submissive' or fetish and 'dominant'. They think that submission is one thing and that thing is ultimately self-serving.